Jay’s ADHD Story

Head shot of Coach Jay Carter
My name is Jay Carter and I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 42. For me, this was a truly life changing experience. The reason for a lot of experiences I’d had in life suddenly became clear. A little bit of coachly wisdom – ADHD is always a reason, never an excuse.

When I was growing up, ADHD or ADD as it was called then was not an unknown condition, but it was typically applied to young boys who could not sit still and were really out of control. I was always just short of out of control so it never occurred to me or anyone else that ADD might be an issue. We have since learned that ADHD manifests itself in many ways. One of the most important things in learning to manage and capitalize on your own ADHD is to understand the unique ways that your ADHD manifests itself.

My ADHD manifested itself in several different ways. Some of my earliest memories of school were emergency studying and project completion at the last minute. This is a frequent ADHD trait. It can be almost impossible for a person with ADHD to pay attention to something they aren’t interested in. I was also often in trouble in school, I would find myself in fights or in other types of trouble. This represents an ADHD trait that I call social “out-of-syncness”. People with ADHD often have difficulty observing and reacting to social clues that happen in every interaction among people. Another way my ADHD manifested itself was the string of jobs I held over the years. It was uncanny in my early adult life that I would find myself in a new job every two years almost to the day. This is an ADHD trait that many ADHDer’s exhibit – being bored with a routine.

There are many more ways that *your* ADHD can manifest itself and it’s important to understand those ways and create strategies for success.

ADHDer’s are incredibly creative resourceful and energetic as a whole. One of the great paradoxes of ADHD is that within each ADHD challenge is the seed of an ADHD strength. Take for example, the name of my company – Hyperfocused Coaching Systems. Hyperfocus can mean that you get so focused on a task that you can’t give it up and spend way to much time on something that’s trivial. On the flip side however, Hyperfocus can be akin to the what has been called “Flow” or being “In the zone”. This is a great state where you can accomplish a tremendous amount in a short period of time. That’s where I try to live my life – hyperfocused on the things that matter most.

In a modern-day ADHD treatment plan, in addition to doctors and therapist, a coach who is well-trained specifically in ADHD is a valuable mainstay in achieving the success you want in life. I am finishing up a intensive year of training at the best ADHD coach training organization in the world – The ADD Coaching Academy.

At Hyperfocused Coaching Systems, we are Hyperfocused on ADHD coaching. Our specialty is coaching clients who have been diagnosed with ADHD late in life. For many of these clients, it’s not so much dealing with symptoms of ADHD, it’s dealing with the issues of living with undiagnosed ADHD. We can support you in discovering a path to success based on the strengths that you possess. For others, it is identifying strategies for addressing ADHD challenges. The word Systems in our company name is because we believe that we can take advantage of systems in dealing with multiple areas of life.We have systems for dealing with many of the challenges that ADHDer’s face and want to master.

As it relates to my personal ADHD, on July 11, 2008, I told the whole state of Minnesota and half the state of Wisconsin that I had ADHD when I was interviewed by the St. Paul Pioneer Press

You can read that article here – Page 1, Page 2

If you are looking for an ADHD coach, I would be honored to have the opportunity to offer you a free 30 minute consultation to see if there is a good fit.

My ideal client is a person who is self-motivated and ready to make a change. I am strictly an adult ADHD coach, but I have some wonderful colleagues who are great coaches for children.

For a no-obligation consultation, please call us at (651)-492-0274 or email Jay Carter.